Lost In My Reverie

"1. I say, ‘I am fat.’ He says ‘No, you are beautiful.’ I wonder why I cannot be both. He kisses me..."

Tue, 21 May 2013 00:22:17 +0100

“

1.
I say, ‘I am fat.’
He says ‘No, you are beautiful.’
I wonder why I cannot be both.
He kisses me
hard.

2.
My college theater professor once told me
that despite my talent,
I would never be cast as a romantic lead.
We do plays that involve singing animals
and children with the ability to fly,
but apparently no one
has enough willing suspension of disbelief
to go with anyone loving a fat girl.
I daydream regularly
about fucking my boyfriend vigorously on his front lawn.

3.
On the mornings I do not feel pretty,
while he is still asleep,
I sit on the floor and check the pockets of his skinny jeans for motive,
for a punchline,
for other girls’ phone numbers.

4.
When we hold hands in public,
I wonder if he notices the looks —
like he is handling a parade balloon on a crowded sidewalk;
if he notices that my hands are now made of rope.

5.
Dear Cosmo: Fuck you.
I will not take sex tips from you
on how to please a man you think I do not deserve.

6.
He tells me he loves me with the lights on.

7.
I can cup his hip bone in my hand,
feel his ribs without pressing very hard at all.
He does not believe me when I tell him he is beautiful.
Sometimes I fear the day he does will be the day he leaves.

8.
The cute hipster girl at the coffee shop
assumes we are just friends
and flirts over the counter.
I spend the next two weeks
mentally replacing myself with her
in all of our photographs.
When I admit this to him
we spend the evening taking new photos together.
He will not let me delete a single one of them.

9.
The phrase “Big girls need love too” can die in a fire.
Fucking me does not require an asterisk.
Loving me is not a fetish.
Finding me beautiful is not a novelty.
I am not a fucking novelty.

10.
I say, ‘I am fat.’
He says, ‘No. You are so much more’,
and kisses me
hard.

”

- Rachel Wiley (via loveyourchaos)
*sigh*

youngblackandvegan: nubianlockedup: MOREHOUSE COLLEGE CLASS OF...

Mon, 20 May 2013 23:43:55 +0100

youngblackandvegan:

nubianlockedup:

MOREHOUSE COLLEGE CLASS OF 2013

black male excellence

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Sun, 19 May 2013 22:52:29 +0100

thegoddamazon: hamdoullahcava: Muhammad Ali on the Vietnam War...

Sun, 19 May 2013 22:49:01 +0100

thegoddamazon:

hamdoullahcava:

Muhammad Ali on the Vietnam War Draft

The fact that this is STILL relevant should be very telling.

theendingbegins: Dave Chapelle Bitch

Sun, 19 May 2013 22:44:44 +0100

theendingbegins:

Dave Chapelle Bitch

kuithefish: Word. Always.

Sun, 19 May 2013 22:20:23 +0100

kuithefish:

Word.

Always.

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Sun, 19 May 2013 22:12:55 +0100

plussizeebony: Essie Golden in BRIGHT DELIGHT WRAP...

Sun, 19 May 2013 15:04:04 +0100

Essie Golden

BRIGHT DELIGHT WRAP SWIMSUIT

NAKIMULI CURVY

plussizeebony:

Essie Golden in BRIGHT DELIGHT WRAP SWIMSUIT

Omg!!

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Sat, 18 May 2013 01:36:38 +0100

chanel-mademoiselle: ‎”THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLEASE TAKE...

Sat, 18 May 2013 00:25:32 +0100

chanel-mademoiselle:

‎”THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLEASE TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It may save a life.)

It seems that alot of attackers use some tactic to get away with violence. Not many people know how to take care of themselves when faced with such a
situation. Everyone should read this especially each n every girl in this world. THOUGHT THIS WAS GOOD INFO TO PASS ALONG…

FYI - Through a rapist’s eyes! A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.
They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.
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POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk:
can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would
not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and
armpit or in the upper inner thigh - HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using
much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel
little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.
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FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL:

I know you are smart enough to know these pointers but there will be some, where you will go “hmm I must remember that” After reading forward it to someone you care about, never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or
purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be
hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .
b. If you! u are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.
c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

If u have a heart or compassion reblog this post.
‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.

LET EVERY GIRL KNOW.
Your one reblog can help to spread this information.

Usually we don’t do this, but we care a LOT for our followers and don’t want to see them hurt in any way.

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Sat, 18 May 2013 00:05:21 +0100

thedorseyshawexperience: The Cola Road (2013)

Fri, 17 May 2013 23:45:31 +0100

thedorseyshawexperience:

The Cola Road (2013)

howto-kissdistinctly-american: lickypickystickyme: If...

Sat, 11 May 2013 01:05:16 +0100

howto-kissdistinctly-american:

lickypickystickyme:

If grandmothers around the world had a rallying cry, it would probably sound something like “You need to eat!”

From top to bottom:

Inara Runtule, 68, Kekava, Latvia. Silke (herring with potatoes and cottage cheese).

Grace Estibero, 82, Mumbai, India. Chicken vindaloo.

Susann Soresen, 81, Homer, Alaska. Moose steak.

Serette Charles, 63, Saint-Jean du Sud, Haiti. Lambi in creole sauce.

The photographer’s grandmother Marisa Batini, 80, Castiglion Fiorentino, Italy. Swiss chard and ricotta Ravioli with meat sauce.

Normita Sambu Arap, 65, Oltepessi (Masaai Mara), Kenya. Mboga and orgali (white corn polenta with vegetables and goat).

Julia Enaigua, 71, La Paz, Bolivia. Queso Humacha (vegetables and fresh cheese soup).

Fifi Makhmer, 62, Cairo, Egypt. Kuoshry (pasta, rice and legumes pie).

Isolina Perez De Vargas, 83, Mendoza, Argentina. Asado criollo (mixed meats barbecue).

Bisrat Melake, 60, Addis Ababa, Ethiopia. Enjera with curry and vegetables.

I would wreck the fuck out of each and every once of those plates. I am the best granddaughter universally.

n8yager: Young Buddhist monks feel their newly shaved heads in...

Sat, 11 May 2013 00:30:22 +0100

n8yager:

Young Buddhist monks feel their newly shaved heads in Seoul

joekenneth: “Yon ti bagay” // entry 009 Pronounced...

Sat, 11 May 2013 00:28:30 +0100

joekenneth:

“Yon ti bagay” // entry 009
Pronounced [yon-tee-ba-guy],this Haitian Creole saying is translated, “a little something,” in English. That’s what my mother and I called wine or any alcoholic beverage. The grown-ups in our family were not shy in exposing us to “strong drink” at a young age. Haha! My mother was someone of moderate habits who would seldom take a drink. She would be in bed watching a movie when I’d walk in her room with a glass cup exhibiting a crimson color. She’d smile as I approached her bed and say, “w ap bwè yon ti bagay?” Chuckling, I responded, “Yes,” and she would proceed to ask me for a drink. Our hearts would rejoice from the contents of that chalice to the point of our tiring out from laughter. Then we’d find the TV watching us as we succumbed to a sweet slumber. The kisses that I left on her cheek as she grinned in repose were more saccharine than my wine-stained palate. As I reflect, I can surely say that she was the sweetest thing that I’ve ever known.
#MayFlowersbyJK

operamartian:

Sat, 11 May 2013 00:23:35 +0100

operamartian:

iluvsouthernafrica: Beautiful woman from the Mucubal people:...

Sat, 11 May 2013 00:06:11 +0100

iluvsouthernafrica:

Beautiful woman from the Mucubal people: South Angola

Photo by: Johan Gerrits

Such badassrey!

voniblue: @Common I love this photo. Beautiful. Dr Maya...

Fri, 10 May 2013 23:59:25 +0100

voniblue:

@Common I love this photo. Beautiful. Dr Maya Angelou is the truth.

joekenneth: “Thread” // entry 010 Buttons fall off from...

Fri, 10 May 2013 23:56:41 +0100

joekenneth:

“Thread” // entry 010
Buttons fall off from repeated use and hems become undone through wear. But these are trivial affairs when mothers seem to possess the innate ability for mending. My mom would sew on buttons in seconds. Teeth, needle, thread. Hand and eye coordinating to keep the cloth covering my skin befit for a queen’s progeny. She probably learned to do so from my grandmother. I say this because after grandma passed seven years back, my mother was the family’s thread. Sharing the title for the youngest out of, now, seven, I saw her mending emotions. Repairing the seams of unraveled sentiments. And crocheting a spot on her shoulder soft enough to subdue the sorrow of relatives young and old. I pray for my heart to be as homespun, tender and threadlike. That people may see the seamstress as they get to know her son.
#MayFlowersbyJK

liamdryden: charlestrippy: No caption needed Someone...

Fri, 10 May 2013 23:54:04 +0100

liamdryden:

charlestrippy:

No caption needed

Someone commented on one of my covers saying I “should go on the Voice or Britain’s Got Talent or even the X Factor” and my heart saaaaannnk

Like, I get that it was intended as a compliment, but it just showed a really misguided perspective of the conventional means for achieving success and that’s… actually kind of worrying to think about?